Thoughts on "The Speech"

My children aren't going. Thank goodness my county gave parents the option. I can tell you, if it hadn't, my children would not have gone to school. Every parent needs to make that decision for themselves and their children based on their beliefs and values. I will not criticize anyone's decision. Everyone raises their children differently. But here are my thoughts, and the reasons we made the decision we did.

1 - My children are 9 & 5. In Kindergarten and 4th grade. The speech will most certainly be over the little one's head and some of it may be over the bigger one's. It's also scheduled for an hour - do you know any children that young that will acutally pay attention for that long?

2 - I don't understand its necessity. To encourage children to stay in school? I drive mine every day - they don't have a choice. To encourage them to try their best? Here's the conversation I had with my 4th grader this morning:

Him: What am I going to miss in the president's speech?
Me: I don't know all of it. But I know he wants to talk about how important
school is and how you should do your best.
Him: But you've told me that every day since I started Kindergarten!

3 - It just doesn't smell right. Why not do this in the speech in conjunction with his joint session of congress speech later this week? Why not just set aside part of that to address school aged children? My opinion on this is that he knows he's not good for ratings any more and a lot of adults won't be watching it - much less calling their children in for a portion. They keep saying other presidents have done this. Including both Bushes. But I just don't remember - and I was in high-school during the first Bush administration. I was old enough for my parents to have discussed it with me if a permission slip like the one we got this week had been sent home. I think he did it as part of a prime time address. And I've had school-aged children for most of the 2nd Bush administration and nothing like this has ever happened.

4 - No one speaks to my child without my permission. I have developed some kind of relationship with every teacher they have ever had. Every one. It's my job to stay on top of what's going on in their schools. To communicate with them about what they are being taught and communicate with the teacher about what's going on in the classroom. Any classroom. I know who's coming in to talk with them. I know more than half of the 4th grade parents also. So, I know what adults my children are around. I know when a speaker is coming to school what he/she is going to talk about in general. Because of these relationships, I have come to trust the adults in charge of my children's education. And I don't trust this president. I just don't think he ever tells the whole truth. I think it's wrong of the administration to all but demand schools show this speech and I think it's wrong of a school district to force a parent to opt out. We should have had to opt in - like we do for everything else.

5 - The hours my children are in school are for education. If education is so important, why take an hour out of the educational day to impress on students how important education is?

6 - The curriculum suggestions. Rumor or not, they were out there. And the wording was suspect. It was changed also. If nothing was wrong with the questions teachers were encouraged to get students to answer, why were they changed? And even if all of this is rumor, rumors generally have some basis in fact. Why should my Kindergartner have to color a picture of the president? He knows who he is. In fact, prior to the election both of my children (my youngest at the time was barely 4) could recognize all 4 candidates on the top 2 tickets. Why should my 4th grader have to write a letter saying how he can help the president achieve his goals? He needs to worry about how he's going to read 24 books this year and work toward achieving his own goals. Not to mention that there should be no loyalty to the president but to the country he serves.

Somone asked me last week would I have made the same decision if it had been President McCain doing this. I think so. I don't think it's appropriate. But honestly, I don't think a President McCain would have been arrogant enough to do this. I was also asked, what if he was coming to your school. First of all, he wouldn't, it's a largely conservative area and it would be a waste of his time. But my kids would go see him, sure. I would go with them. That's a once in a lifetime opportunity. This president is on TV every other night for some reason or other. So they won't be missing anything. Will I let them watch the speech later? My 4th grader, maybe. As long as I'm with him and I can explain things in more detail. Or note if I think he's said something out of line. My Kindergartner, nah, he's just too young and won't do anything but say "hey, that's Barack Obama" over and over.

I've said this a lot this week: It is the teachers' job to educate my children and the teachers at our elementary school are doing a fantastic job. It is my job to impress on them how important school is. We're doing a good job of that. Both of my kids love school. Yes, that's in their nature, but if we weren't always encouraging them, that would fade. My 4th grader was ready to go back after only a few days of summer. It's my job to encourage them to try their best. From time to time they struggle with that, but there are consequences for not doing your best. So far, we haven't had any major issues with behavior or bad grades, so we must be doing fairly well with that also. None of this is the president's job and if that's what his speech is about, my kids don't need it. If it's about more than that, I don't want my kids to be used in politics that way.